Carpinteria commute romance

I commute from Carpinteria and I don't care if that's uncool. I'm 40, a nonprofit director, and I've chosen a quiet life on purpose. I'm looking for someone who also prefers quiet and doesn't need to be at every event in town. I'm warm, thoughtful, and I garden obsessively. I want a man who'll sit on my porch with a book and not need to talk unless he wants to. I've done the busy life and I'm done with it. I want real connection, slow mornings, and someone who thinks my tomatoes are impressive. They are.